This isn't something you do yourself.
The 12V system even at 100% efficiency would require about 250 amperes of current to provide 3000W. At lower efficiency, it's closer to 300 amperes.
I don't think most EVs even have a 3000W DC-DC converter so at 3000W, the 12V battery would deplete in very short amount of time. Lead-acid batteries don't like deep discharge so do that few times and you need a new 12V battery. In some cars like Tesla, every load is accounted for and if you create a load the computer doesn't know about, it will fail to work.
Even 100 mm2 copper wires can't do 300 amperes.
To do this, you need an inverter that's tapped into the high-voltage battery directly. You in practice can't do this yourself, you need a car where the inverter is already present. Some cars like Hyundai Ioniq 5 already have such an inverter. Most don't.
I think it's braindead design to create a mobile >70 kWh battery pack and not add an inverter to provide 230V 3600W via a standard outlet.
Only buy cars that have the all-important 230V 3600W inverter like Hyundai Ioniq 5. Don't buy cars that lack that important feature.