It sounds like you're unintentionally overtightening the filter. When installing the new filter, oil the rubber gasket, then turn the filter onto the threaded mounting boss, just until the gasket touches the engine's sealing surface. Mark the side or the crown of the filter with a marker, or a dab of paint or correction fluid. Gently turn the filter further, by hand, until the filter has been tightened precisely to the specification listed on the filter. If necessary, use a band wrench or strap wrench to achieve that specification. Most filters are tightened 3/4 of a turn, past the point of first contact between rubber gasket, and sealing surface. Go no further than that specification. To remove a filter, use a steel band wrench, which self-adjusts to the correct size of the filter. For stubborn filters, use a cap wrench, which fits the fluted crown of the filter, and is driven by your 3/8" drive ratchet. In extreme cases, a large set of water pump pliers may be used, to grip and turn the filter off.
Avoid generic filters. Their cases are made of thinner metal, and the filter media are substandard. Use a brand name filter, like AC, Fram, or Motorcraft.